Girls Gone Mild by Wendy Shalit is an informative book that advocates the return of modesty among today's women.
These few chapters of the book focus on the lack of emotions that girls are programed to adopt. Wendy talks about how the sexual liberation of women is really the demand for them to be emotionally repressed. Women are asked to feel nothing when there is a physical interaction between her and a man. According to the experts this enables them to engage in casual sexual activity without emotional consequences. The problem...this is impossible for this is not how we were made. Who benefits from this type of emotionless interaction? The man.
Wendy points out that girls today are unashamedly advised by mentors, media, and culture to have low expectations when it comes to a man's commitment to her after they've been intimate. Wendy concludes that low expectations means no expectations. Girls are told that the notion of a guy committing himself to her and her alone is a far fetched old fashioned idea. Romance goes out the window. So, according to our society, a women should have no expectations of love, but rather an ability to be used.
The empowered woman is not one who gives herself away freely, but the one who demands respect and commitment. Why does our culture have this reversed? I see this mindset seeping into the actions and perspectives of the girls in our youth group, and it breaks my heart. They are being programmed to give everything to everyone without expecting anything in return. How do we break this cycle?