The other morning, before I actually got out of bed, I was lying there thinking about some of our conversation we had in small group on Sunday night. I have the Jr. and Sr. girls, and we have a code that says, "What's said in the group, stays in the group", so I will not elaborate on details. However, we did discuss romance and relationships a bit.
This lead me to think about the first time I realized that Erik was "the one". We were 17 and seniors in high school and had only been dating for about six months. He had joined my family as we took some itinerating missionaries to a Cub's game. On the way home from Wrigley Field, Erik and I sat in the back of my family's station wagon...it was the seat that actually faced the back of the vehicle (how embarrassing is that?). I don't remember the extent of the conversation we had, but I do remember laughing so hard my stomach hurt. When we arrived home, Erik and I were relaxing in the front room of my house, and again, we found ourselves laughing. After Erik went home for the evening, I can remember liking the way he fit in with my family, and I loved the way I could be myself around him. There was an inkling in my heart that said, "you are going to marry him." But, because we were only 17 and still in high school, I didn't put much stock in that notion, and I certainly didn't tell him that then! Then, during our sophomore year of college, Erik said to me, "you know I want to marry you don't you?" I replied,"you have to date me for a year straight without breaking up with me before I'd even consider it!" He did.
Two years later, he proposed.
So, my question to all of you married peeps out there, is when did you know he/she was the "one"?
7 comments:
I felt like Joel was the one way back when I was 13. I could not get over him and I compared everyone else to him. There were many years that I did not think we would end up together but I always loved him more than any other boyfriend. (I do not feel like I could have said at 13 that he was the one though.. too young and dumb) but... I did know that there was somethings special about him way back then. What a crazy path we have taken! Lots of ups and downs for sure..... but I can't imagine my life without him. My dad always said, don't marry someone you can live with but marry someone you can't live without. Joel was the one I could not live without.
Well since I didn't get married until much later in life - 27! I pretty much knew what I was looking for and what I should stay away from.
My first date with Rick was to church and out to lunch on a Sunday and my next date was to a Cubs game. Since our first two dates were some of the most important things in my life (God and the Cubs!) I knew our relationship had great potential! I think I really knew he was the one after about a month of dating.
We were engaged 6 months later and married 6 months after that! I'm so glad I waited for Rick - he is the love of my life!!
It's very interesting to me... I didn't know what to expect because I didn't really have many (any) serious boyfriends before I met Mike. I went on a lot of dates and was just not willing to get serious with someone if I knew I didn't see it going any farther.
When I met Mike, I knew there whas something special about him, even if I coulnd't remember his name. It was a very comfortable calm and peaceful feeling... so my hint to you ladies if you are feeling infatuated with someone... he's probably not the one. He needs to be your friend and respect you first and above all! Hope that helps...
Chris and I started dating when I was 16. Probably about 6-8 months into that relationship I knew. But it wasn't until 3 years later that we got engaged. My parents even knew he was the one pretty early into the relationship.
I never thought at 16 I would have known the man I was going to marry because "normal" 16 year olds just date around and do NOT marry their boyfriends, but MINE DID WORK OUT!
He is my best friend and we have been together for 6 years now. We are going on 3 years of marriage in June.
On our first date, Brian forgot to get money from the cash station, and I had to pay for dinner...but I had such a great time talking with him that it didn't bother me:-) He was the first guy I met that actually talked. I think the other guys I went out with were too cool for school. Brian also talked about God and church, which impressed me how much it was a part of his life.
Mr. B. and I met at NCU. Before I even knew him well I had this overriding sense of peace about the person he was and who he would let me be if we were ever to end up together.
We took a trip to Florida for Spring Break w/ a bunch of friends and that's when we started our relationship. I don't think there was ever a time I had a huge "knowing" experience. Our whole relationship was emersed in an easy knowing that this was "it."
The fact that he wanted to talk about real things like our future in China, his goals in life, my goals really made it clear that he was serious about this...and I should be too.
We dated for 9 months then got engaged. Were engaged for 7 months and got married. Whew!
I distinctly remember that moment, after 2 yrs of dating, when we were driving to Taco Bell in his little red Geo Tracker, and out of the blue he belted out the theme-song to the 'Wonder Years.' "...What would you do if I sang out a tune...Would you stand up and walk out on me...Lend me your ears, and I'll sing you a song...I'll try not to sing out of key..." There was no rhyme or reason to that moment. Just my silly Ryan being silly again. But, it made me want to cry with joy. I don't know why, but it seemed so romantic to me. His being vulnerable enough to sing to me. The lyrics that said he was laying himself on the line. etc. I know I was reading way too much into it at the time. But it is when I knew I loved him and couldn't live life without him. And today, as we approach our 10th wedding anniversary, he honestly still captures my heart like way back then. xoxo
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