Yesterday when I woke Parker up for Pre-school, he was less than excited. I had to drag him to get dressed, force him to brush his teeth, and literally beg him to let go of me when we got to the classroom. Before I left the building, I took one last peek through the window. My heart sank when I saw Parker standing behind a group of children playing with blocks with a wishful look on his face. He was too timid to enter into play with them. I left with an uneasy feeling, but this whole school scenario is designed to put me and Parker out of our comfort zones.
When I went to pick him up he and his classmates were on the playground. Parker was off to the side sitting on a bike with his fingers in his mouth. As soon as he saw me, he ran to the fence so I could rescue him. In the car I started to initiate conversation so I could determine how his day was. This is what he said to me, "These friends are not my favorite." Of course I asked why, and he replied, "Because they be mean at me. They say 'ha ha , you not come my house.' " I asked him what he did when these children were mean to him, and he said that he went by the books and he read by himself. He told me that he liked to play by himself at school, and that all of his favorite friends were at church.
This was the exact reason why I chose to send Parker to school at a place other than our church's program. He is so comfortable at church, because he is a pastor's kid. He is used to people initiating interaction with him. He is used to people wanting to be his friend. I think it is hard for him to be at a place where he has to make new friends and actively seek out playmates. At church he is the most outgoing and aggressive boy, so to see this side of him at school is confusing to me.
My heart is breaking. I know this is part of parenting, but what mom wants to see their son suffering from rejection. I want to take the easy route and just put him at the church's program, but my instincts tell me that this is what he needs to develop proper social skills. It is my turn to volunteer on Monday in his classroom, so I am going to observe the dynamic and then maybe talk to the teacher. If all else fails, I'm going to beat up the mean kids!
On a funnier note, Parker asked me what his blood pressure is today. I have no idea where he gets this stuff.